I had the honor of attending a meeting about vaginas last week. It was hosted by North Dallas Doula Associates. Our speaker was Shirley Jefferson, a certified sexologist and experienced sexual health educator. She is a DONA trained birth doula with North Dallas Doula Associates and serves clients in DFW as a couples sex coach.
There were nearly 20 women who got together to enjoy some wine and cheese and learn about our bodies. We indulged in cupcakes made to look like vulvas. We made nametags with our alter egos. The names that women came up with were so much fun. We giggled and talked and asked lots of questions. Many of those women were doulas and there were a few L&D nurses and a certified Nurse Midwife. No one got a perfect score on the vagina IQ test... and every single one of use learned something new. Shirley reminded us that nurses are experts in pathology and she is an expert in pleasure.
Our bodies are amazing... and it was sad to hear many of the women saying they felt sex was more of a duty than a truly pleasurable experience. There are so many ways that we can lose ourselves as women. With the many changes in our bodies and hormones...mental state, when we experience pregnancy, childbirth, breastfeeding, weight gain, weight loss, aging... the social stigma of being a woman and espeically a mother who *GASP* enjoys sex!!
We need to know what our bodies are capable of...and find a way to truly embrace and enjoy it!!! We need to give ourselves permission and the freedom to claim what belongs to us and not be embarrassed or ashamed. We need more nights of sharing and opening up to each other. More times when we are not afraid to ask questions.
I cannot wait for the next meeting in this series!! I hope to see you there!!
Get in touch with North Dallas Doula Associates for information on more meetings like this.
And if you are on the Fort Worth side and need a doula, let me know! I'm here for you. <3
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Abbey is a birth and postpartum doula and placenta specialist in Dallas/Fort Worth and a mom to 4 children between the ages of 19 and 6.